r.i.p … … when he became healthier
Mom’s sister’s eldest son. Around 5 years old this year. Physically retarded. Was born this way. Weak limbs. Normally lies in bed. Couldn’t walk. Very thin and sick. Can’t eat properly. Got babysitter took care of him. Fed him. Bathed him. Parents took him to see doctors. Brought him to physiotherapy sessions to build up his body. Sad childhood. Got 1 brother and 1 sister. They are happy, lively and active. Eat well, play and learn. Imagine yourself always in bed and your brother and sister are enjoying themselves. Recently, he became better and healthier.
Then, he died. Yesterday. It’s a matter of time. Just didn’t think it would be so fast. Apparently, the babysitter was feeding him. Gave him a rather big tablespoonful of rice. He choked. Then died. The doctor discovered a lump of rice stuck in his throat during the post mortem. He couldn’t breathe. Sad right. So sayang. I thought it has something to do with his spastic condition. Spastic children must be well taken care of. Even while they are eating. Because they are weak, they are slightly slower. So can’t expect them to chew and swallow like normal person. Everyone should go visit SCAS & FT. See how the spastic children live their lives. You would be surprise to see them so happy, even happier than you. Their lives and world are so pure. They cherish their moments, learnings and they like to meet new people. I think my nephew had a weak heart……
My grandmother died while she was eating as well. When my uncle went to see her, he saw her face laid on top of a rice bowl. He thought she pengsan, but actually she passed away. About one month b4 she died, she was in the hospital. She accidentally fell down the stairs and i think she knocked her head. THen, she encountered memory loss. She couldn’t remember who we were and she was acting like a child. Shouting. Manja-ing ( didn’t want to eat and all), claiming my aunty is her mother in law ( my aunty was her daughter in law).The worst part was seeing how my mom, my aunt n my uncle took the things that went their way. Funeral was sad. We cried and some paople tried to copy down the number plate of a paper car we were burning for my grandma.
On the last night of the chinese funeral day, we went to my grandmas’ house. Settling things and packing. I was sitting in the living room. Everyone was busy with something. My grandma’s room’s door was slightly open. I heard a faint crying sound. Not just once. A few times. I checked to see whether anyone hear it. I saw everyone was in the living room. My aunts, uncles, nephew, mom, dad………. Then, my aunt entered my grandma’s room to take something. I went and saw nobody inside. Shiver ran down my spine. I told my mom later. She told me when my dad’s mom died when i was around 3 to 4 years old. When i went to the funeral, i cried very loudly. Everbody was stunned. Me being a 3 year old kid who knew nothing. But my grandma really sayang me wan la. So everybody started showing their emotions, they cried after they saw a kid who knew nothing cried. Then in one occasion, when my parents and my relatives were talking about my grandma. Then i said and pointed a finger to one direction saying that grandma was there in the corner. I was very young also la that time. IN my old house in Serdang, sometimes a brown moth will come visit me n my bros when we were studying in the study room. It came like certain days in a year. When it comes, it comes quite often then it diasppears. It happened every year. My mom used to say it’s my grandpa or grandma came to see whether we were studying or not. But sometimes, it goes up to my bedroom! But i was accustomed to it.
There are quite a few other things that i encountered. But i’m leaving it for next time.
August 27th, 2007 at 9:07 am
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